“You sit with me!” Choosing a caregiver is a lottery, the price of which is life.

Do not & nbsp; need to make the relationship with the & nbsp; nurse conflictual, taking the position & laquo; we & nbsp; pay you & nbsp; & mdash; you & nbsp; have to endure everything. Poor Russian speakers & nbsp; & mdash; this will make it difficult to communicate both & nbsp; with & nbsp; you, and & nbsp; in & nbsp; first of all with & nbsp; ward. & mdash; & nbsp; She & nbsp; was & nbsp; 50, mother-in-law, for & nbsp; which required care, & nbsp; & mdash; 93. Her services & nbsp; were almost equal to my monthly salary. One of the & nbsp; ways to solve the problem & nbsp; & mdash; the incipient reform of the social service, the formation of the so-called long-term care system (CDS). By & nbsp; education, I am & nbsp; teacher of additional education. Many devices look very attractive, but after the purchase they remain unclaimed. Weekly “Arguments and Facts” No. For example, schools are often opened where relatives are taught how to properly care for & nbsp; such people & nbsp; & mdash; it is a separate science. A professional nurse knows how to work with & nbsp; all patients. Therefore, share your problem on & nbsp; social networks, especially in & nbsp; profile groups. Where & nbsp; to look for it? This saves time and & nbsp; nerves, minimizes the risk that a dishonest person gets into the & nbsp; house. This is usually a few short lessons, possibly & nbsp; online. Went to & nbsp; district polyclinics and & nbsp; asked, did not & nbsp; leave & nbsp; whether any of & nbsp; nurses on a & nbsp; pension, does not & nbsp; need & nbsp; does & nbsp; & nbsp; work? For & nbsp; more serious cases, study not & nbsp; only the caregiver market, but & nbsp; and & nbsp; those & nbsp; types of assistance to citizens in need of & nbsp; care that work in your area. Because it was required not & nbsp; only to wash and & nbsp; feed, but & nbsp; and & nbsp; to do dressings, injections, to understand the state of a person by & nbsp; movement of eyes, hands. The salary for & nbsp; life was no longer & nbsp; enough, I took out a loan. What should she & nbsp; be able to do? I know that maternity groups are very responsive. But & nbsp; to & nbsp; everyone needs to find an approach and & nbsp; to calm down. De facto, this means a guarantee of employment after training. This is taught in patronage schools. We must pay tribute to the authorities & nbsp; & mdash; they are trying to come up with ways that would encourage people to acquire this profession. I asked about & nbsp; nurses on & nbsp; pensions from friends, doctors, friends, in & nbsp; social networks. I was never & nbsp; shy about any work. How not to & nbsp; afford to come to & nbsp; such a state & nbsp; & mdash; and & nbsp; really help a loved one? While still working at the & nbsp; school, I organized a volunteer group to surround such children with care and & nbsp; help. And & nbsp; the most widespread option on the & nbsp; market is a middle-aged woman who came (as a rule, after & nbsp; children) from & nbsp; some former Soviet republic. Many people need a good functional bed and & nbsp; devices to move a person from & nbsp; bed to & nbsp; chair or wheelchair and & nbsp; back. There are two ways to do this. Untrained nurses. Why? There is a market for nurses, it & nbsp; really functions, and & nbsp; sooner or later it is possible to find a person whose skills and & nbsp; character will satisfy both you and & nbsp; your ward. And, most importantly, she knows how to communicate with & nbsp; such wards delicately, respecting their dignity. This is very difficult & nbsp; & mdash; to love the ward as a loved one. & mdash; & nbsp; is not cheap. Rental centers are being created where you can get a variety of rehabilitation aids. Therefore, one of the & nbsp; safest ways to find & nbsp; & mdash; through the recommendations of friends. The second way & nbsp; & mdash; aggregators for & nbsp; home recruitment. After the case was taken under the personal control of Alexander Bastrykin , she was & nbsp; sent to a pre-trial detention center, and & nbsp; now and & nbsp; sentenced. And & nbsp; in & nbsp; 45 & nbsp; years she moved to get a job in a boarding house for seniors near Moscow and & nbsp; to earn money for volunteering. It's good when the family sees how you & nbsp; work, understands you and & nbsp; gives time for & nbsp; rest. The conflict between a young woman and & nbsp; her & nbsp; ward happened on the & nbsp; first & nbsp; day of her & nbsp; work & nbsp; & mdash; the nurse went over with & nbsp; alcohol, began to scandal, threaten the old woman with murder, and & nbsp; in & nbsp; in the end she simply beat a helpless woman. The third way & nbsp; & mdash; through patronage agencies. The nurse's salary was 40 & nbsp; thousand, all the sons of the mother-in-law were dumped. They offered to do an operation, for which we & nbsp; sold the apartment (fortunately, & nbsp; we had another & nbsp; & mdash; tiny one, where we & nbsp; and & nbsp; later moved). Was ready for & nbsp; everything, because & nbsp; to. These are important questions if this is your first time hiring a caregiver. Semi-stationary services are also being introduced. First of all, you need to learn to “ secret '' methods of working with & nbsp; so-called people with limited mobility. And & nbsp; stories, happy and & nbsp; sad, in general, equally divided. If something doesn’t fit (for example, the gurney doesn’t & nbsp; pass through the door), it’s easy to hand it back. ''. But & nbsp; the main thing & nbsp; & mdash; it is a warning for bedsores. Khabiba worked & bdquo; with & nbsp; accommodation & ldquo ;. Not & nbsp; could wash myself and & nbsp; even eat. simply because their & nbsp; was practically not & nbsp; was. In order for the means of minor rehabilitation to really help, they must be & nbsp; selected for the needs of a particular person and & nbsp; dimensions of the apartment. They say that money is not easy. “ On a far from & nbsp; beautiful day, my 50-year-old mom passed out. Therefore, if you & nbsp; dared to become a nurse and & nbsp; want to avoid it, become your ward a friend. Good carers usually go from & nbsp; one family to & nbsp; another through & nbsp; acquaintance. Migraines and & nbsp; used to haunt & nbsp; but & nbsp; there was something strange, & nbsp; & mdash; Olga Zarutskaya, a resident of the capital, shares her experience. The market dictates the price Cost services of professionals & nbsp; & mdash; just professionals! First of all, because good carers are simply not & nbsp; enough, but & nbsp; when demand exceeds supply by & nbsp; times, this is not reflected in & nbsp; prices in the best & nbsp; way. In the & nbsp; USSR, the nurse violated two articles of the law at once & nbsp; & mdash; not only did she make money privately, but also & nbsp; was considered a parasite (since it was impossible to combine many hours of being next to a patient & nbsp; & nbsp; some kind of official job). In a word, without a nurse & nbsp; & mdash; no way! It is aimed at & nbsp; support for the elderly and disabled people who have partially or completely lost the ability to care for themselves. The first & nbsp; & mdash; let her go there & nbsp; for & nbsp; training. This pilot project has been carried out since & nbsp; 2019 & nbsp;, today two dozen regions of Russia are participating in it. And & nbsp; I didn’t & nbsp; feel sorry for any money, because I & nbsp; was calm: they would not & nbsp; miss the attack, relieve the pain, feed on time, read, walk. In the & nbsp; USA and & nbsp; European countries, most of them are also migrants, in & nbsp; including from & nbsp; Russia and & nbsp; countries of the former socialist camp. “ Khabiba appeared in & nbsp; our lives through an agency for & nbsp; recruiting caregivers, & nbsp; & mdash; tells Elvira. & mdash; & nbsp; Did a paid MRI, the results were stunned: a brain tumor. & mdash; & nbsp; But & nbsp; the possibilities of & nbsp; regions are different. How to communicate with & nbsp; her? Every day I ask my grandfather what we are going to do today: read, draw, sing, watch the news. Without & nbsp; knowing the techniques necessary to work with & nbsp; sedentary people, they can & nbsp; only harm them, sometimes seriously. And & nbsp; they found me Lyudmila Ivanovna. ” How to choose a good nurse? And & nbsp; why are their & nbsp; services so expensive? '' Finding a nurse & nbsp; & mdash; it's like looking for a spouse: who's as lucky. Now mattresses that take the shape of the body and & nbsp; relieve pressure on the skin are considered more effective. Yes, there are also volunteers and religious women. It can be emotionally difficult, burnout can occur. To find such a professional, you need the widest possible circle of contacts. For example, in the & nbsp; framework of the national project “ Demography '' there is a project “ Promotion of employment '', in which for people in & nbsp; age 50 + & nbsp; there is an opportunity to get a new profession “ Caregiver. Pushkin told about & nbsp; how the patient's relative feels at the same time: his Eugene Onegin, getting ready to “ sit and & nbsp; day and & nbsp; night '' with & nbsp; dying uncle, I was already determined to “ sigh and & nbsp; think to myself: when & nbsp; will the devil take you! I advise & nbsp; rent them. & nbsp; in & nbsp; account of compensation for moral damage. '' Can you & nbsp; become a nurse for a loved one yourself? And & nbsp; family members face the most difficult choice: take care of themselves, look for a hospital or hire a nurse. But & nbsp; for the caregivers themselves, these services are not & nbsp; very profitable, since they take a percentage of & nbsp; earnings. Most often it happens suddenly & nbsp; & mdash; when your loved one, until recently active, full of strength, with & nbsp; a bright mind, a person can no longer look after himself, and & nbsp; sometimes and & nbsp; just figure out who he is & nbsp; and & nbsp; where he is. And & nbsp; in & nbsp; June, President Putin instructed the government in & nbsp; as soon as possible & nbsp; & mdash; until & nbsp; end of 2022 & nbsp; g. Love & nbsp; like a native The essence of a nurse's work & nbsp; & mdash; turn her life into a & nbsp; happy life for her & nbsp; ward. What to do if you like the nurse, but & nbsp; doesn’t & nbsp; know much? If & nbsp; she has a trusting relationship with & nbsp; your loved one and & nbsp; you like her too, then & nbsp; you can improve her & nbsp; qualification in the & nbsp; school of home nursing. In & nbsp; Russia today the situation is difficult & nbsp; and, if we take the regions, heterogeneous, but & nbsp; it is, albeit slowly, but & nbsp; improving. All these techniques can be found & nbsp; on the internet and & nbsp; to master them & nbsp; yourself. No, she didn't & nbsp; beat our granny, but & nbsp; intimidated that she would take revenge if she told the children something. They take on possible risks, suggest which nurse is better to choose for a particular person, look for a replacement for her, if the employee recommended by them does not & nbsp; fit, is ill, or for some reason cannot & nbsp; work. From & nbsp; vehicles to & nbsp; mainly use walkers or rollators. 48. And & nbsp; granny herself cooked porridge for herself, walked on a & nbsp; bench near the entrance. '' & Nbsp; & quot; Deliver me from & nbsp; her & quot; A & nbsp; Elvira Kolesnikova from & nbsp; Solnechnogorsk less fortunate. The neighbors ran to the & nbsp; cries of the beaten. True, she & nbsp; was credited with the time in custody, so the brawler was released right in the & nbsp; courtroom. She came to & nbsp; 8 & nbsp; in the morning and & nbsp; left only after my return from & nbsp; work. It was not easy to find such a person, but & nbsp; I & nbsp; knew where. Who and & nbsp; where does the caregiver train? He & nbsp; taught me to sing military and & nbsp; Ukrainian folk songs, I & nbsp; his & nbsp; & mdash; paint. Incidentally, the situation with & nbsp; nurses & nbsp; & mdash; the problem is worldwide. She was a nurse, nurse, nurse. Yes & nbsp; and & nbsp; state of & nbsp; patients & nbsp; & mdash; too. Remember that the & nbsp; caregiver has a personal life and & nbsp; she & nbsp; also needs rest so that she becomes a good helper for your relative. Only a few & nbsp; & mdash; could afford to hire a nurse. The very process of learning a new profession usually takes place in patronage schools, and real professionals are trained there. It was convenient for us, because the mother-in-law did not & nbsp; want to move to the & nbsp; children & nbsp; & mdash; it was painful for her to lose her position as a hostess in her own apartment. The second & nbsp; & mdash; invite the coach home to teach her & nbsp; directly on & nbsp; your loved one. Unfortunately, not all graduates of these schools go to work in the & nbsp; specialty. & mdash; & nbsp; But & nbsp; it & nbsp; will & nbsp; help if you use it & nbsp; wrong. Still & nbsp; where would a loafer quickly find such & nbsp; fools as & nbsp; us, who will provide her & nbsp; food and & nbsp; accommodation? But & nbsp; nor & nbsp; about & nbsp; which I do not & nbsp; regret, because I did everything for my mother that I could, everything that I should. You & nbsp; will be able to personally talk with & nbsp; her & nbsp; past employers, learn how to build relationships with & nbsp; how much to pay, & nbsp; what it is & nbsp; to ask for. It works! After the operation, my mother lived for almost a year, but & nbsp; externally and & nbsp; internally it was already a completely different person. If a person subjectively does not & nbsp; like & nbsp; & mdash; this is also a reason for refusal. Dear & nbsp; & mdash; and & nbsp; not & nbsp; always reliable This wild story took place in & nbsp; Petersburg in & nbsp; February. How developed is the social services market in the & nbsp; country? The latter seem to me to be optimal. This is a very important point! The woman beat her ward & nbsp; & mdash; 98-year-old siege. It is enough for someone that a social worker or a nurse came to & nbsp; a few hours 1 & ndash; 2 times a day & nbsp; & mdash; this gives good budget savings. Not cheap help 01/12/2021 In & nbsp; at the end of November, in & nbsp; Petersburg, the nurse was sentenced & nbsp; & mdash; restriction of freedom for & nbsp; 1 & nbsp; year 4 & nbsp; months and & nbsp; 50 & nbsp; thous. And & nbsp; do not & nbsp; forget that & nbsp; your loved ones because of a serious illness, too, often changes not & nbsp; for the & nbsp; better side. She & nbsp; could not be left alone, she could & nbsp; turn on the water, stove or kettle. She knows how to turn a person in the & nbsp; bed, how to transfer to a & nbsp; chair (there are special techniques for this); how to feed if the swallowing process is disturbed; how to avoid bedsores and & nbsp; how to care for & nbsp; them, if they already exist. What can the government offer? '' She has a tough job. The nurse was detained. If the nurse is not & nbsp; satisfied with your conditions, but & nbsp; has no choice & nbsp; and therefore she agrees, it's better not to & nbsp; & nbsp; do not & nbsp; hire her, as, most likely, everything will end in a conflict. How to turn them over in & nbsp; beds, lift and & nbsp; put them on a chair, how to properly feed, wash and & nbsp; carry out hygiene procedures. Coordinator of the Attention & Nbsp; Care School of Nursing Elena Sukhacheva advises paying attention to & nbsp; such aspects. Usually, these are daytime groups, when relatives can be sure that their ward is under supervision in & nbsp; the time they spend outside the home, at & nbsp; work. In their & nbsp; base there can be & nbsp; excellent nurses who know their worth, and & nbsp; beginners. & Nbsp; etc. When I appear at the & nbsp; doorstep, he smiles. In addition to medical care, & nbsp; it includes help for a family, in & nbsp; of which there are such patients, and & nbsp; even the allocation of nurses and & nbsp; home patronage. And & nbsp; I had to work so that there was & nbsp; what to buy medicines, food, hygiene items. But the & nbsp; & nbsp; first in & nbsp; mostly visit nursing homes, and & nbsp; the second work in & nbsp; hospitals and & nbsp; & nbsp; in the monasteries themselves, and & nbsp; they have enough work. Who is not & nbsp; worth taking? Therefore, in case of her & nbsp; conflict with the patient, try to listen to both sides. rub. And & nbsp; our parents didn’t & nbsp; had & nbsp; & mdash; all care of a seriously ill person fell entirely on the shoulders of relatives. After 10 & nbsp; months, the mother-in-law in a whisper asked us to rid her & nbsp; of & nbsp; Khabiba. In & nbsp; home to & nbsp; my current ward & nbsp; & mdash; The 86-year-old general, who needed care after a hip fracture, was & nbsp; hit by a & nbsp; recommendation. & Nbsp; in & nbsp; nursing home “ met '' and & nbsp; with & nbsp; bedsores, and & nbsp; with & nbsp; abscesses, and & nbsp; most important & nbsp; & mdash; with the pain of & nbsp; loneliness. Assistant for & nbsp; care. Secondly, it is necessary to correctly select the means of small rehabilitation & nbsp; & mdash; from & nbsp; cutlery and & nbsp; dishes helping people with & nbsp; trembling in & nbsp; hands, impaired fine motor skills, weakness and & nbsp; deformation of the hands, to & nbsp; lifts and & nbsp; special means for moving patients. Yes, the job of a nurse is not & nbsp; sugar. Having matured and & nbsp; getting married, going through the loss of loved ones, she began to help weak, abandoned children in orphanages, especially children with & nbsp; disabilities. & Raquo; & nbsp; Where to go for & nbsp; help? He has a clear & nbsp; mind, excellent memory and & nbsp; his own world, which he shares with & nbsp; me. After all, a person still needs to be turned over every 2 & nbsp; hours. There are different wards: someone does not & nbsp; sleeps at night and & nbsp; is constantly torn somewhere, someone is aggressive, & nbsp; someone has problems with & nbsp; memory. When we & nbsp; said that we were leaving, Khabiba sobbed, screamed that she & nbsp; had nowhere to go. Plus, search not & nbsp; only among friends, colleagues, neighbors, but & nbsp; and & nbsp; among the acquaintances of your acquaintances, the parents of your child's classmates. And & nbsp; lived in & nbsp; my pleasure: ate everything that we & nbsp; brought in & nbsp; mother-in-law's bowls, gave our children our fruits, received guests, slept half a day or chatted on the & nbsp; phone with & nbsp; fellow countrymen. “ No money & nbsp; sorry! She should be able not to & nbsp; only change a diaper, but & nbsp; and & nbsp; to provide assistance in & nbsp; any hygiene procedures, because & nbsp; people can have special catheters, gastro- and & nbsp; nephrostomy and & nbsp; t. Elvira Verwein, volunteer with & nbsp; 15 years of experience, Ulyanovsk : & mdash; Since childhood, I have always tried to help abandoned and crippled animals. They were & nbsp; considered & nbsp; parasites We, living in & nbsp; XXI & nbsp; century, it is a sin to complain & nbsp; & mdash; we have a choice in the & nbsp; principle. The consultations in & nbsp; Murmansk, where we & nbsp; lived, we were not & nbsp; very satisfied, we went to & nbsp; Moscow, and & nbsp; then, collecting all the savings, & nbsp; & mdash; to & nbsp; Germany. & mdash; & nbsp; identify funding sources and & nbsp; implement CDS everywhere. Because it's hard & nbsp; & mdash; and & nbsp; morally, and & nbsp; physically, you need a special warehouse of character. How to insure against & nbsp; such “ surprises '' and & nbsp; who today decides on & nbsp; this hard work & nbsp; & mdash; take care of & nbsp; helpless patients? Why & nbsp; are so few people going to & nbsp; nurses, if their & nbsp; services are so in demand? But & nbsp; if you & nbsp; do not & nbsp; find kindness in & nbsp; an old man is a burden to you, you & nbsp; are & nbsp; ready to & nbsp; a hundred times to listen to endless stories from & nbsp; his past life, then & nbsp; it is better not & nbsp; to be & nbsp;/p> Истoчник aif.ru “ Usually they immediately try to get an anti-bedsore mattress, & nbsp; & mdash; says Lena Andrev, lecturer at the Department of Nursing Management, RUDN Medical Institute. Mom loved her. Smart people immediately advised to look in & nbsp; assistants for a person with & nbsp; medical education. 'Therefore, if you & nbsp; first encountered & nbsp; such a disaster, I advise you to first contact the & nbsp; social security authorities, where they can offer you some help, & nbsp; & mdash; says Lena Andrev, lecturer at the Department of Nursing Management, RUDN Medical Institute.